When What You’re Seeking is NOT Seeking You…

Let’s face it, we can’t always have what we want.  There will be times in your life when the person you desire is just simply not desiring you back, hence what you’re seeking is not seeking you. This can be really devastating and at times quite difficult to get through and over.

Your mind can take over and begin to talk to you in a negative manner with thoughts of not being worthy enough of having someone you truly care about and then having that someone reciprocating in the same way.

Before you go into a downward spiral, consider these options.

Be True to You:

First and foremost, you matter.  Did you hear me? YOU MATTER! One of the best things you can do is to create distance between you and the other person.  Constant reminders of someone who is not feeling the same way about you will only crush your heart and continue the negative thoughts pouring in. Remove this person from your social media platforms (this way you can’t stalk them…because you know you want to). This will help with the urge to peek into their online life and what time they were last seen online. Remove anything from your personal space that reminds you of this person. Either give it back or throw it away (that might actually feel quite good).

Take Time for You:

Healing may be just what the doctor ordered. Consider treating yourself to a getaway.  No matter what your budget may be, you should be able to find a few days away somewhere suitable for you.  Get away with yourself somewhere so you can dive deep into you and release this person from your body, mind and soul.  It could give you a new perspective about yourself and where you want to go in your life. You may realize the person you need to be in a relationship with is YOU.  Get to know yourself again and this way when you’re ready and feeling amazing, the right person will be presented into your life and I can guarantee this person will be THAT MUCH MORE AMAZING than the one you have released.

Learn the Lesson(s):

Every relationship you encounter in your life is presented with lessons for you to learn.  You are both teacher and student to one another. Take reminders from the relationship or person and learn the lesson so you can move on and be even better for yourself. Then consider writing down what you want from a person in a relationship and what you want from the relationship itself.

 

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