One Sweet Day

It was just the other day that I was laying out next to the pool, on a lounge chair under the sunny, blue sky in Costa Rica, when I decided to try a playlist from called 90’s Summer Hip Hop.  Upon hearing just the first song, I was immediately transported to another day and time in my life. A time when things just seemed so much easier, so much lighter, so much freer. My thoughts fired instantaneously to my high school friends and the 4 years that we had spent together, day in and day out.  When our biggest worries were passing exams, auditioning for musicals, trying out for sports, and what we were going on wear on dress down Fridays.

Looking back now, I realize the innocence of those moments in our lives that we shared with each other. It was a very precious time and the memories of those years continue to haunt my mind as I attempt to relive them on occasion, most specifically when I hear songs and music of our era.  For that is what truly takes me back and I can be shifted to a specific moment shared with my classmates from one song.

Even post graduation, those summers in between college semesters when most of us would go home, we would still hang out, go out, chill out  and just be with each other as much as possible.

And now, thanks to social media we’re able to stay in touch on a daily basis no matter where we live on this planet. We’ve had many reunions, 5-year, 10-year and so forth.  And even mini reunions for those who could make it out for a night. It’s truly amazing how when you’re with the beautiful souls of your youth, and aside from the body’s little signs of aging, it’s as if no time has passed.

We’ve lost several of our beloved classmates and friends over the years. Each time when I learn that a classmate has passed away, I simply cannot believe it. Weren’t we all just 16 years old wondering what we were going to wear to the school dance?  Such a moment happened in late 2016 upon receiving the shocking news that a good friend from high school passed away. It was a truly devastating time for all of us because it seemed so surreal. And it was.

While I have only shared this with a few people, for some reason, I’m being compelled and pushed to share it with all of you. Several months after my friend’s funeral, I was woken up from what felt like a very, VERY real dream experience.  What I was viewing in my dream state was crystal clear and I can still see it all playing out in my mind as I write this. Here we go:

In my dream, I was called to the hospital because of the news that my friend was awake and everything was okay.  I get to his hospital room and stand behind a group of people who were sobbing tears of joy because they could not believe the miracle that my friend was awake and walking around. As I was straining to see where he was in the room, the bathroom door all of a sudden opens and my friend walks out.  He looked just like himself but in a hospital gown.  I was still straining to see him over the heads of the other people standing in front of me when he saw me, opened his arms in a hug formation and gestured with his hands for me to come over and get a hug from him.  So I did.  And after the hug, he looks at me and said, ‘Oh my gosh, Stephanie, they’re playing the song. Look.’  As I turned to see what song was playing on the television at that moment in my dream, I was floored.  I heard the song in my dream…and then I woke up.

A few weeks after I experienced my dream, I’m in the car sharing my dream story with a friend when the song comes on the radio.  I just could not believe it. The synchronicity was crazy.

My dream was so life like, so real, that I knew it was a heaven sent message. As I said earlier, for whatever reason, I have had an urging and a nudge inside of me to share this over the past 24 hours.  Maybe someone out there needs to read this. Maybe someone out there needs to hear the song. Whatever the reason may be, I hope it brings someone out there peace in their heart.

 

Disappearing Acts in Dating – Ghosting

Let’s talk about it…has it happened to you?  Is it happening to you now with a woman you like? Or worse yet, have you actually done this to a woman? One moment you’re having dinner with someone on a date, hoping this will go somewhere and the next moment you never hear from them again. The term in the dating/relationship world is called ghosting.

What is ghosting exactly?  According to our friends over at Urban Dictionary  , ghosting is the act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone. Let’s say the subject is dating and you no longer wish to date the other person. So then, you ghost them.  You cease all communication in hopes the other person gets the hint and will leave you alone (for good) instead of having an actual adult conversation with them to let them know you’re no longer interested.

Immature? Yes.

Some people feel ghosting someone will hurt their feelings less when in actuality, it can cause major confusion on behalf of the ghostee. This is a serious lack of communication skills from the ghoster and aside from a sense of confusion, the ghostee also never gets closure on the situation and is left in a state of bewilderment. The lack of ‘why’ is frustrating.

The world of dating is not an easy one and in a day and age where we can just ‘shut someone off’ by unfriending them, blocking them or ignoring takes the core element of relating and communicating to a whole sinking low level.

There are other ways to tell someone you’re dating that you are no longer interested in them:

  1. Have an actual face to face conversation (it’s a new thing)
  2. Have an actual phone conversation (remember talking?…on the phone?)
  3. Pass them a note in the hallway between classes

In a time of easy outs, expressing your opinion hiding behind your laptop and ghosting, it’s time to take the high road when it comes to relationships and letting someone ‘down’ easy.  Pull up the big boy/girl panties and be an adult about it.  If you’re adult enough to enter into a relationship, you’re also adult enough to exit one.

If you feel are experiencing relationship issues of any kind, I can help.  You can schedule an appointment with me for a psychic relationship/love reading by visiting HERE.

 

 

 

‘I Believe My Future is Bigger Than My Past’

I do believe my future is bigger than my past.  As soon as I heard these words spoken by Steve Gleason in his documentary titled, Gleason, it struck a chord within me. There are so many times in life when we are so hyper-focused upon the mistakes we have made.  We focus upon our failed relationships, our lost opportunities and the should’ves, could’ves, would’ves.

Little do most people know that those moments in life when we feel our failures will completely ruin us, they can actually be blessings in disguise.  Did you ever stop to think that maybe a relationship failed because growth was completed by both people involved and a better, healthier relationship was waiting for each?  Each person experienced what they needed to in the relationship and now it was time to move on.  Or perhaps a lost opportunity was a door closing and even though it was horrendous to experience and go through, little did you know an amazing and more fulfilling opportunity was just around the corner.

It’s okay to live in the past for the sake of recognizing the lesson each situation you’ve experienced has provided for you and even to be grateful for those lessons. It’s why you’ve had those experiences, although at the time, when you’re going through it, it is the last thing you’re thinking about. The moments when you’re in it so deeply, you don’t even know what the light looks like at the end of the tunnel as you dig your way out of the darkness. You see, that’s the thing…that darn light.  In the moments of rock bottom, just see it, envision that light.  Even if the light that shines through for you is simply the size of a pinhole, at least it is there.  Truth?  It’s always been there because it resides within you. Once you begin to realize this, it makes putting one foot in front of the other a bit easier.

I believe my future is bigger than my past because I refuse to allow my past to define the direction of where I want to go in my life, who I want to have along for the journey, and the opportunities I have yet to experience.  Society tells us that you have to have your successes accomplished within a specific age range and I just don’t agree with that.  There is still much love to give and to receive, there is much that has yet to be accomplished, there is much to see, there is a lot of life to be lived and yes, there are even more lessons to be learned.

What we do need to take away from our past is what we have learned and to recognize the growth that has occurred. Use those lessons to be more aware of the actions you take moving forward so you’re able to make the right decisions for yourself to enjoy deeper, more fulfilling experiences.

Time to Lay it Down

Few really truly know me. Even less actually ‘get’ me.  And by getting me, I mean know the true essence of who I am, what I stand for, what I believe in…what makes me tick…on the soul level.

Perhaps I have not let many in to be able to fully reveal myself. I’m aware that I do this as a defense mechanism for fear of being judged, not accepted or approved of. I’ve struggled with this my entire life.

Throughout my life I’ve been a people pleaser; always seeking to make others happy so they are not disappointed in me.  This behavior occurred in my relationships ranging from family to friends to my ‘romantic’ relationships. I’ve recognized this pattern of behavior within myself a few years ago.  I’m aware of it, yet at times it still rears it’s ugly head to challenge me to break the pattern. I no longer want to care what others think of my choices, decisions, my way of thinking, my spiritual beliefs. I no longer want to care what others think of me.  I am no longer seeking approval for the choices and decisions I make for myself.  I always respect the opinions of others, however my feeling is if someone does not agree with something I say, do or feel, that is on them, that is not on me.  It is no longer a burden of responsibility that I am willing to carry as it has gotten too heavy to bear and I am laying it down.

I am a deeply sensitive being. Like a badge of honor, I wear my emotions on my sleeve for the world to see.  I not only feel what I feel, most times, I also feel what you feel. My heart overflows with a sense of responsibility to care for many; to be the Light that shines in your moment of darkness.  Yet, at times, I too seek to find that Light in my moments of darkness.

Behind the closed doors in the sacred sanctuary of my apartment I cry with you, I smile with you, I hurt with you and I laugh with you. Tears are shed…a release. Releasing the emotions that I feel, is such a good, healthy thing to do because I simply don’t want them to get rooted within me. Many do not understand this and many never will.

I am a positive, kind person who does my best to see the good in people and situations.  Having a positive perspective on life can be difficult at times as I am human, just like you.  I have my own dragons to slay and some just don’t understand this. I share my outlooks with others in hopes it will help them for a moment in their day and perhaps they will, in turn, pay it forward.  It only has to begin with one person.  My perspective is, if I help one person, animal, etc, it will have a ripple effect and the gesture is much grander in the big picture then in the actual moment.

The journey I have been on since I moved to North Carolina has not been easy.  It has been an introspective map leading me to have met the most beautiful people, experience amazing moments, and it has allowed me to find out who I am and what I want from my life. Now at forty-four years young, I am beginning to understand who I really am and what my soul’s purpose is.

As I move forward, one foot in front of the other, I grow into the human that I was meant to become in this lifetime. Not everyone will understand and that is okay.  At times, I don’t even understand and in those moments I pause, take a deep breath, ask for Guidance, trust and continue with my journey.

 

The Story of Milo

Along with my messages and my own thoughts, I am feeling it is time to tell Milo’s story and how he has changed me forever.  I will be posting his journey, more specifically his journey with cancer so that I may share my love for him, his love for me and my love for you allowing me to pass along the information I have learned when you hear those awful and dreaded words…’Your dog has cancer.’  It is my hopes that I will be able to help those dog parents who just don’t know what to do.

This is Milo’s story.

Milo meandered his way into my heart little by little, moment by moment until his paw prints made so many indentations, you could not tell one memory apart from the other.  I kept my promise to him to be the best Mom and guardian I could be and do anything I could within my power to take care of him and love him…just the way he is.

And in turn, he has taught me so many lessons.  Lessons on patience, love, pin pointed focus, humor and determination just to name a few. Some of these lessons seem very on the surface and they were.  They were quite obvious.  Others, ran as deep as my soul and would not be brought into my awareness until much later.

I want to share one of those moments with you.  What I am about to share is from the amazing animal communicator, Diane Jackson from www.AnimalMessengers.com.

In early December, I had the chance to ask Milo a few questions through Diane.  This is what transpired.

‘When I first called Milo, he stepped forward and Boris came with him. Boris wanted to know if he could talk too.  I told him that him that he was more than welcome to chime in anytime. Boris said he often likes to be the comedian because Milo can get too serious about things. (Although Milo says he has a great comedic sense too). Milo might not show it outwardly but inwardly he is concerned about taking care of everything and everybody. Although that can be a huge responsibility, Milo wouldn’t have it any other way. He is proud of the way he does his ‘job’.  The problem is taking on too much emotional and energetic responsibility can be difficult for a physical body to process.  Milo says he really likes being the keeper of the energies in the household. He feels that it is an important part of his purpose in being with his family. Boris said he thinks that we should all help Milo understand that no one expects him to take all that on.  He said, “Me and Mom just want Milo to he happy and healthy.”

Question: Your Mom Wants to Know How You Are Feeling?

‘Truthfully, I am kind of frustrated. I need for my body to be stronger and it just doesn’t seem to be able to keep up with all the work I do. (What kind of work are you talking about?) I am responsible for the emotional well-being of everyone in my family. I worry about them a lot and I often feel that I really can’t help them as much as I want to. I came to this family with a commitment to anchor peace and stability in our home environment. That can take a lot of physical and emotional energy. My heart and mind are fully up to the job. But my body, unfortunately, seems to pay a price for all the energies I so willingly take on.’

Question: Are You In Any Pain?

‘I have some minor physical discomfort. But I really try not to focus on that. My discomfort comes from a place of emotional distress when I feel like I can’t balance the energies the way I think they should be. I try to keep a lot of my distress to myself, because my Mom worries about me enough as it is. I only want her to feel happy all the time.’

Question: Is There Anything That You Need or Want? Anything Else You Want Your Mom to Know?

‘Yes! My Mom worries too much about me and Boris. She tries so hard to give us everything we need. Sometimes she gives too much. She prioritizes for others way more than she does for herself. One of the many lessons I am teaching her is about the importance of loving yourself and having good emotional boundaries. Good boundaries can be hard when you really love those you are in relationship with. I am a good example of over-giving and not having those boundaries. Although my heart is in the right place, I simply take on too much. I have no regrets about that though. I am a constant mirror of important information for my Mom and for Boris. The real lesson is about finding true alignment in all aspects of your Being. That means all the various energetic and emotional systems are working harmoniously with one another. When the body comes up with an illness, it is only the body’s way of communicating that something needs attention. There is always an emotional correlation with the physical issue. So it is important to address the core issue at the room of the physical problem. That often means sniffing out any places where emotions are hiding and set them free. I have been very good out sniffing out, but not always great at setting the emotions free. So you can see that I am the consummate teacher of many important life lessons. My Mom needs to know that all I do is out of my infinite love for her.’

Question: Boris, Are You Going to be Okay When Milo Transitions to the Heavenly Realms?

‘I am much stronger than my Mom thinks I am. I tend to stay in Milo’s shadow a bit right now because I know that my doing that is important for him right now. He needs to feel that he is the leader and that he is doing a great job. Of course I miss my friend when he leaves, but I also know that he will still be with us – just not in his dog suit. I will admit that I would like a new friend to play with at some point when my Mom is ready. Milo said he doesn’t want us hanging around grieving his loss. He said he will come back in a different dog suit. He said that Mom will know it’s him when she sees him.  He will give Mom a look that will give her the shivers.’

Milo’s beautiful reading was read out loud in a room of about 15-20 people.  Most of them had tears in their eyes upon the end of the reading, myself included.

Milo only goes to prove to me, yet again, what a wise, old soul he is.

A Message for All

Your life’s lesson is boundaries. It will come in different forms and packages. Use your discernment to recognize the lesson and do not be so quick to just let anyone in. Speak your truth about your feelings. Do so in a kind and gentle way as others are learning from you too.

Where there is oneness the heart is open. You are not separate but at times you think you are.  That is the ego. Release and forgive. Heal from the lessons in your past so you can easily move forward along your path. The path toward enlightenment. Rest assured you have all that you need within you. Don’t be so quick to seek, seek, seek when the answers are in your heart. Connect to your heart every single day and the only person you shall seek is yourself.

Trust what you are getting, for it is real. Release doubt and self-judgement. Purpose, purpose, purpose…be purposeful. And dare to dream. No one can put out the light that is in your heart, Dear One. In fact, they are all drawn to it. A moth to the flame.

Be still, be silent and listen.

As so it is.

With Love, the World is Yours

With love, the world is yours. Present yourself with an open heart and an open mind. Do not be afraid of showing the world who you really are. For you are a Divine Being of love and light. You are here to help the planet, as we all are. Cast your blessings and prayers each and every day to the world and help lift the vibration of the planet. Say it to every human, every plant, every insect and every animal.  Raise the frequency of YOU and therefore the world’s frequency will rise. Do not think you are just one person for one person can make a difference and collectively alter the vibration.

 

Many of us wish to help and we do, however do not forget to ask us to help as well.  We do not intervene unless we are asked. In a world of limitless possibilities, be the one always moving forward on your path. Go forth with conviction and purpose as you are so loved.