Learning to trust yourself can be quite the obstacle to overcome in life. Some people have no issues with this at all but on the flip side, many struggle making decisions and being at peace in knowing the right decision was made.
There are many outside influences that can have dramatic effects on how you feel before, during and after making big life decisions. The first thing to realize is that you matter and what you want from your life does too. You need to seriously assess where you are in your life, where you want to go, what responsibilities you currently are obligated to and then all of the other details associated with it. One other thing to consider is how your decision will perhaps affect others in your life.
For example, my life has been filled with wanting to always please other people and most times, never putting myself first. When I made the decision to move to Costa Rica from the United States in August 2017, I knew in my heart of hearts it was the right thing to do for me. I had limited responsibilities in my life during this time but I also knew deciding to move would impact my family and my dogs. I was being pulled by the Universe to make this move, to trust myself, to trust in the process and the guidance I was receiving, even if it meant my heart was being broken because I knew I had to give guardianship of my two dogs to my ex-husband. It was now his turn and time to care for them during their precious senior years. Not only that, but also knowing I would be saying, ‘See you soon’ to my very beloved family and friends immediately brought tears to my eyes.
Will you have naysayers? Yes, you will. There is no way around it. When you begin to hear the negative chatter surrounding the decision you made, you can rest assured that most people saying things to you have your best interest at heart. Whatever reason it is that they feel compelled to share their opinion, you WILL hear their voices in your head, you WILL question yourself, you WILL doubt. Rest assured, this is where learning to trust yourself and standing in your power of your decision will keep you grounded so you can continue to move forward along your chosen path.
This is your life. No one will ever have the exact same experiences that you have living your life and being your true authentic self. Don’t live your life being in the passenger seat while allowing someone else to drive for you. You’re not going to be on your death bed regretting all the things you did but you will be on your death bed regretting all of those experiences you did not do. Don’t have regret. Don’t live in fear. You only have one lifetime. Learning to trust in yourself is what will make your life such an amazing experience for you. Lay on your death bed with a huge grin on your face knowing you lived your life for you; knowing you enjoyed the ride and experiences; knowing you made a difference; knowing you loved hard; knowing you trusted yourself.
Being a spiritual advisor, the majority of the questions most people have for me are related to love and relationships. Most want to know if the person they are dating will be their life partner, soulmate or twin flame. A lot of the scenarios and situations that cross my path honestly break my heart. I want to reach out through my laptop to those asking the questions (mostly women) and tell them they are worthy of the most amazing, loving, caring, reciprocated relationship if they simply re-direct their focus onto one thing: Self-Love.
Most of us have not really been taught the art of loving thyself. We are constantly on the quest to find ‘the one’ that we miss the most important one of all…ourselves. In order for you to really get the love you want and deserve, you must start with yourself first. Self love is simply the regard for your own well-being and happiness. No one has control over this but you. One thing we must remember is that it is okay to put yourself first.
Loving yourself first is the greatest gift you can give to yourself. But what does loving yourself look like? It is and should be different for each and every person. Self love comes in many forms ranging from treating yourself to a massage or a spa treatment for complete relaxation and releasing of negative energies and toxins to knowing your worth and not putting up with anyone’s mistreatment of you. By mistreatment I mean any kind of abuse from mental and emotional to spiritual and physical. What is your worth?
Did you know that you actually teach someone in the first 6-months of any kind of relationship how to treat you. If you do not set healthy boundaries within those first 6-months you might be entering into a relationship that is not the healthiest for you and it will be more difficult for you to set your self love boundaries moving forward. Of course do not give up hope but if you find yourself heading down a path in a relationship that may be negative, you may need to sit with yourself, get centered and make a decision that is best for you.
When you love yourself first you are setting a precedence for many positive relationships, situations and opportunities to come into your life. You may not realize it at first but it will happen. Keep your self love practice rolling each and every day. Remember, it can be walking in nature alone to get grounded to giving yourself 15 minutes a day for journaling and meditation. Nothing is more sacred than the love you give yourself.
Stephanie is a Psychic Empath, Energy Healer and Empowerment Coach. If you would like a reading with her or another kind of session, please click here.
It’s because I listened to that voice from within and that knowing sensation I felt in my gut, that I was able to make a life changing decision to follow my heart and all of the signs the Universe was bestowing upon me, and I packed up and moved to Costa Rica in September 2017. It was something that prior to me visiting there for a five-day vacation in early August 2017, that I was not planning…like…at all. I knew I wanted to move somewhere and all I kept telling the Universe was wherever I moved to, I had to be very close to water and nature. It was as if I placed a direct order with the Universe. It was a vacation that forever changed me. I knew within the first four hours of standing on the beach in Dominical, that I was supposed to be here…permanently. And I made it happen in forty-four days.
I am telling you this story because had I not listened to my heart’s desire, had I not heard every download from the Universe and flat out not watched for every single sign screaming at me that this was the right thing to do, I would have succumb to the fear that was just one step behind my every two steps forward. And I would be miserable living a life that I knew I did not really want anymore living in a country that I continued to feel separate from and I would not BE my true, authentic self.
Fear is the one emotion that can cause you to simply stop moving forward with anything in your life. Often too many cave into it. Fear of the unknown; Fear of the what-ifs. There is the constant worry about the future, as in, things that have not even taken place yet…and this means they are not real. So why are we worrying about them now?
Fear can hold you back from your dreams and doing what your soul yearns to do in this lifetime. Learning to trust what you know to be right for you can and will propel you forward. The more you are able to recognize the fear you hold within, the more you are able to release this emotion from your system(s). And soon you will become, fearless. You just have to believe in yourself, if you don’t who will?
Stephanie is a psychic empath (amongst other things) who offers reading and coaching sessions worldwide. If you’re interested in having a reading with her, please click here to schedule an appointment.
Let’s talk about it…has it happened to you? Is it happening to you now with a woman you like? Or worse yet, have you actually done this to a woman? One moment you’re having dinner with someone on a date, hoping this will go somewhere and the next moment you never hear from them again. The term in the dating/relationship world is called ghosting.
What is ghosting exactly? According to our friends over at Urban Dictionary , ghosting is the act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone. Let’s say the subject is dating and you no longer wish to date the other person. So then, you ghost them. You cease all communication in hopes the other person gets the hint and will leave you alone (for good) instead of having an actual adult conversation with them to let them know you’re no longer interested.
Some people feel ghosting someone will hurt their feelings less when in actuality, it can cause major confusion on behalf of the ghostee. This is a serious lack of communication skills from the ghoster and aside from a sense of confusion, the ghostee also never gets closure on the situation and is left in a state of bewilderment. The lack of ‘why’ is frustrating.
The world of dating is not an easy one and in a day and age where we can just ‘shut someone off’ by unfriending them, blocking them or ignoring takes the core element of relating and communicating to a whole sinking low level.
There are other ways to tell someone you’re dating that you are no longer interested in them:
- Have an actual face to face conversation (it’s a new thing)
- Have an actual phone conversation (remember talking?…on the phone?)
- Pass them a note in the hallway between classes
In a time of easy outs, expressing your opinion hiding behind your laptop and ghosting, it’s time to take the high road when it comes to relationships and letting someone ‘down’ easy. Pull up the big boy/girl panties and be an adult about it. If you’re adult enough to enter into a relationship, you’re also adult enough to exit one.
If you feel are experiencing relationship issues of any kind, I can help. You can schedule an appointment with me for a psychic relationship/love reading by visiting HERE.