Fear

It’s because I listened to that voice from within and that knowing sensation I felt in my gut, that I was able to make a life changing decision to follow my heart and all of the signs the Universe was bestowing upon me, and I packed up and moved to Costa Rica in September 2017.  It was something that prior to me visiting there for a five-day vacation in early August 2017, that I was not planning…like…at all.  I knew I wanted to move somewhere and all I kept telling the Universe was wherever I moved to, I had to be very close to water and nature.  It was as if I placed a direct order with the Universe.  It was a vacation that forever changed me.  I knew within the first four hours of standing on the beach in Dominical, that I was supposed to be here…permanently. And I made it happen in forty-four days.

I am telling you this story because had I not listened to my heart’s desire, had I not heard every download from the Universe and flat out not watched for every single sign screaming at me that this was the right thing to do, I would have succumb to the fear that was just one step behind my every two steps forward.  And I would be miserable living a life that I knew I did not really want anymore living in a country that I continued to feel separate from and I would not BE my true, authentic self.

Fear is the one emotion that can cause you to simply stop moving forward with anything in your life. Often too many cave into it.  Fear of the unknown; Fear of the what-ifs. There is the constant worry about the future, as in, things that have not even taken place yet…and this means they are not real. So why are we worrying about them now?

Fear can hold you back from your dreams and doing what your soul yearns to do in this lifetime. Learning to trust what you know to be right for you can and will propel you forward. The more you are able to recognize the fear you hold within, the more you are able to release this emotion from your system(s). And soon you will become, fearless.  You just have to believe in yourself, if you don’t who will?

 

Stephanie is a psychic empath (amongst other things) who offers reading and coaching sessions worldwide. If you’re interested in having a reading with her, please click here to schedule an appointment.

 

Disappearing Acts in Dating – Ghosting

Let’s talk about it…has it happened to you?  Is it happening to you now with a woman you like? Or worse yet, have you actually done this to a woman? One moment you’re having dinner with someone on a date, hoping this will go somewhere and the next moment you never hear from them again. The term in the dating/relationship world is called ghosting.

What is ghosting exactly?  According to our friends over at Urban Dictionary  , ghosting is the act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone. Let’s say the subject is dating and you no longer wish to date the other person. So then, you ghost them.  You cease all communication in hopes the other person gets the hint and will leave you alone (for good) instead of having an actual adult conversation with them to let them know you’re no longer interested.

Immature? Yes.

Some people feel ghosting someone will hurt their feelings less when in actuality, it can cause major confusion on behalf of the ghostee. This is a serious lack of communication skills from the ghoster and aside from a sense of confusion, the ghostee also never gets closure on the situation and is left in a state of bewilderment. The lack of ‘why’ is frustrating.

The world of dating is not an easy one and in a day and age where we can just ‘shut someone off’ by unfriending them, blocking them or ignoring takes the core element of relating and communicating to a whole sinking low level.

There are other ways to tell someone you’re dating that you are no longer interested in them:

  1. Have an actual face to face conversation (it’s a new thing)
  2. Have an actual phone conversation (remember talking?…on the phone?)
  3. Pass them a note in the hallway between classes

In a time of easy outs, expressing your opinion hiding behind your laptop and ghosting, it’s time to take the high road when it comes to relationships and letting someone ‘down’ easy.  Pull up the big boy/girl panties and be an adult about it.  If you’re adult enough to enter into a relationship, you’re also adult enough to exit one.

If you feel are experiencing relationship issues of any kind, I can help.  You can schedule an appointment with me for a psychic relationship/love reading by visiting HERE.

 

 

 

Twin Flame or Soulmate

The twin flame relationship. Many may have heard about it but do you really truly know and understand what the twin flame relationship is all about? Is it similar to the soulmate relationship?

This kind of relationship is the ultimate relationship to have in your lifetime but many people have no idea just how insanely difficult and upsetting a twin flame relationship can be.

Time and time again, I am asked by clients if their partner is their twin or when they will meet their twin flame. Being in a twin flame relationship with someone can be one of the most rewarding,most intimate, passionate experiences we can have as a human. Yet, it can also be one of the most challenging and painful relationships to encounter through all of the different phases.

People can encounter their twin flame over many different lifetimes and not come together because one or both souls are not vibrating at a high enough frequency to be able to come together and do the work necessary to make this relationship an amazing, unconditional love union based on service.

Can your twin flame also be a soulmate?  Yes, however, unlike soulmates which are our perfect match, twin flames are our perfect mirror.  Your twin flame is a mirror and direct reflection of issues your ego is dealing with that will rise up to the surface for you work through and heal in order for you to move forward in the relationship.  These may be issues that even stem from childhood. Either way the twin flame relationship is intensely passionate, can be on again, off again and at times can also be very painful.

I believe that we have many soulmates in our lifetimes.  It is not just one person and the soulmate relationship is not always an intimate, romantic relationship.  Your soulmate(s) can be a family member, best friend, lover…really anyone you have a significant connection with or anyone who you feel bonded to. A soul mate will help you grow in life, and will help you evolve and grow into your true self. (rebelcircus)

A twin flame shares many similarities with a soulmate. A twin flame can also be your soulmate, but to a more extreme level. According to thespiritscience.net, twin flames derive from the same soul, and are separated into two when they are created. Often times, people believe two twin flames are halves that make up one whole, however upon splitting, they become their own soul.

 

Time to Lay it Down

Few really truly know me. Even less actually ‘get’ me.  And by getting me, I mean know the true essence of who I am, what I stand for, what I believe in…what makes me tick…on the soul level.

Perhaps I have not let many in to be able to fully reveal myself. I’m aware that I do this as a defense mechanism for fear of being judged, not accepted or approved of. I’ve struggled with this my entire life.

Throughout my life I’ve been a people pleaser; always seeking to make others happy so they are not disappointed in me.  This behavior occurred in my relationships ranging from family to friends to my ‘romantic’ relationships. I’ve recognized this pattern of behavior within myself a few years ago.  I’m aware of it, yet at times it still rears it’s ugly head to challenge me to break the pattern. I no longer want to care what others think of my choices, decisions, my way of thinking, my spiritual beliefs. I no longer want to care what others think of me.  I am no longer seeking approval for the choices and decisions I make for myself.  I always respect the opinions of others, however my feeling is if someone does not agree with something I say, do or feel, that is on them, that is not on me.  It is no longer a burden of responsibility that I am willing to carry as it has gotten too heavy to bear and I am laying it down.

I am a deeply sensitive being. Like a badge of honor, I wear my emotions on my sleeve for the world to see.  I not only feel what I feel, most times, I also feel what you feel. My heart overflows with a sense of responsibility to care for many; to be the Light that shines in your moment of darkness.  Yet, at times, I too seek to find that Light in my moments of darkness.

Behind the closed doors in the sacred sanctuary of my apartment I cry with you, I smile with you, I hurt with you and I laugh with you. Tears are shed…a release. Releasing the emotions that I feel, is such a good, healthy thing to do because I simply don’t want them to get rooted within me. Many do not understand this and many never will.

I am a positive, kind person who does my best to see the good in people and situations.  Having a positive perspective on life can be difficult at times as I am human, just like you.  I have my own dragons to slay and some just don’t understand this. I share my outlooks with others in hopes it will help them for a moment in their day and perhaps they will, in turn, pay it forward.  It only has to begin with one person.  My perspective is, if I help one person, animal, etc, it will have a ripple effect and the gesture is much grander in the big picture then in the actual moment.

The journey I have been on since I moved to North Carolina has not been easy.  It has been an introspective map leading me to have met the most beautiful people, experience amazing moments, and it has allowed me to find out who I am and what I want from my life. Now at forty-four years young, I am beginning to understand who I really am and what my soul’s purpose is.

As I move forward, one foot in front of the other, I grow into the human that I was meant to become in this lifetime. Not everyone will understand and that is okay.  At times, I don’t even understand and in those moments I pause, take a deep breath, ask for Guidance, trust and continue with my journey.

 

Got You Where I Want You

We all have had times in our lives that we consider our carefree days.  Those times for me were in my mid-late twenties to right around thirty. Did I have responsibilities?  Sure, but looking back on it from present life today, it really seemed and felt much more carefree to me. A few less worries, a few less responsibilities…life simply did not seem so serious.  It was much more about fun and carefree with our main concern being where we were going out for that night.  I belonged to a kickball league, was listening to amazing music and pretty much did whatever I wanted.

Music was and is such a big part of my life, that I feel I must have been a part of this industry in some way, shape or form in a previous life.  Concerts (large and intimate) have always been a constant thread woven throughout the intricacies of my life. I hear a song and am instantly transported to that moment in time where it made the greatest impact.  It took only one listen of ‘Got You Where I Want You’ by The Fly’s to hook, line and sink me back in 1998. I was crazy about this song.  It was honestly the only song off their album that I knew, yet I was hell bent on seeing them perform at an amazing venue, which has sadly since closed its doors in 1999, called The Bayou, locating off K Street in Georgetown. It was the last song they played (of course) and with drinks in hand, I sang along and went a little crazy.  It was bliss.

Life has a funny way of providing you with twists and turns that you never expected.  It is definitely a journey and not for the weak of heart. Every facet of my life has had meaning and purpose and therefore, I have no regrets.  My carefree days were some of my favorite times of my life.  When I think about them, my heart aches ever so slightly for those moments however, I have had moments in my life since then that definitely had some sparkle to them.  Life can seem so dreadfully serious at times and yet it’s during those times when music has such an uncanny way of saving my soul and changing my perspective.

Recently I was driving down the highway.  The sun was out, the windows were down, my long brown hair was being tasseled by the breeze and the radio was on.  That’s when I heard it.  ‘Got You Where I Want You’ came on.  My heart dropped as my mind instantly went back to 1998.  As my foot pressed a little harder on the gas pedal, I cranked up the volume, felt the music and sang along being completely lost in the moment..  It was an actual carefree moment that I have not had in such a long time.  A tear trailed from my left eye, down my cheek.  And for three-odd minutes of a song, I was 25 again.

Today’s Goddess Message

I decided it would be fun to ask for a general message for the those reading this post from The Goddess Oracle deck by Amy Sophia Marashinsky and Illustrated by Hrana Janto.

Each and every one of us, whether born male or female in this lifetime possess BOTH male and female energy.  The ying and the yang.  So yes, if you’re male, you do possess energies of the Divine Feminine/Goddess.

Today’s card is Goddess Vila: Shape-Shifting.

I dance from form to form

I shift from shape to shape

ever changing

ever expanding

ever becoming

I am flexibility

for by changing my form

I freely flow with all that comes my way

I am consciousness

for by shifting my shape

I gain an expanded awareness of what it is to Be

I waltz a whirlwind

tango a tree

salsa a swan

or just plain fox-trot

My dance is an affinity with All

for I am able to become All in order to know All

Becoming All dissolves form

Knowing All creates Oneness

The illusion is that you have a separate shape.

Continue below for meaning of the card…

Meaning:

Vila has come dancing into your life in her many forms to teach you to nourish wholeness by learning to shape-shift. Have you been too long in one form? Are you feeling still and stagnant, losing flexibility in your way of thinking and being? O perhaps you feel that the human is the most important being in creation – that the rocks, tress, animals, earth, etc, are lesser forms.  It is time to expand your awareness, to enhance your flexibility by gaining the perspective of other forms. Vila says the way to wholeness lies in experiencing the whole of creation.

My Story

It is through my life journey that I will be able to reach others who might be experiencing similar situations. I hope every woman in the world knows her self-worth, above all else, is what is most important. It is then & only then that true happiness can exist because it starts within you first.

The stories I share with you are from my perspective & personal experiences as seen through my eyes and told through my voice. Names & places have been changed to protect the innocent.

Please be sure to start where all journeys do…from the beginning.  There is still more to write on the story of how I left my husband. Be sure to check back.

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