Being back in Tennessee with Henry was a nightmare. I felt like I was constantly looking over my shoulder. Henry would leave for work and then my mind wanted to know if there were there cameras in the house viewing my every move. Paranoia was rearing its ugly head. In my mind, I deserved to feel this way, but that didn’t stop me. I continued to stay in touch with Mark. It was nothing major but just knowing he was there to listen made me feel better. I was fueling the fire for Henry to not trust me. I know it was wrong, I do, but at the time I just didn’t care. I was in pure survival mode for my mental and emotional state.
Paranoia for Henry also set in as he came to me one morning before work and asked to see my phone. You see, he had mentioned to me how a friend of his, who also cheated on his girlfriend, would allow his girlfriend to go through his phone and computer trolling through Facebook, phone calls received, phone calls dialed, etc. You get the picture. Henry presented this idea to me several times to which I ignored. Until that morning when he bolted into the bedroom and demanded to see my phone and email. My heart was pounding. I was scared, I won’t lie. Not of Henry, but of the possibility of him kicking me out. I had no where to go and no money at the moment to leave. The phone numbers that I did not recognize, he would call to see who was on the other end. He listened to voicemail messages, read emails and Facebook messages. Then he flipped his lid when he noticed a post on Facebook…from Mark. Just a post on his wall but nonetheless. He could not believe we were friends on Facebook and asked me to immediately end it. So I did. Henry left for work. I got in the shower and cried.
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It was during this time that I enrolled in certification for level 1 class in something brand new to me, Reiki. Reiki is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. It is administered by “laying on hands” and is based on the idea that an unseen “life force energy” flows through us and is what causes us to be alive. If one’s “life force energy” is low, then we are more likely to get sick or feel stress, and if it is high, we are more capable of being happy and healthy (reiki.org). During this long weekend of meditation, tears, and connecting with other women who I know were placed in this class on purpose via Source, I believe I have found something much grander than me. This was the beginning of me being aware that I was indeed on my spiritual awakening journey toward enlightenment and it has forever metamorphosed me into the person I am today and into the spiritual being I strive to become. The reiki shares my teacher would hold became my social outlet and my way to decompress from the intense stress I was dealing with on a daily basis. I really believe it saved my life.