Learning to Trust Yourself

Learning to trust yourself can be quite the obstacle to overcome in life. Some people have no issues with this at all but on the flip side, many struggle making decisions and being at peace in knowing the right decision was made.

There are many outside influences that can have dramatic effects on how you feel before, during and after making big life decisions. The first thing to realize is that you matter and what you want from your life does too. You need to seriously assess where you are in your life, where you want to go, what responsibilities you currently are obligated to and then all of the other details associated with it. One other thing to consider is how your decision will perhaps affect others in your life.

For example, my life has been filled with wanting to always please other people and most times, never putting myself first. When I made the decision to move to Costa Rica from the United States in August 2017, I knew in my heart of hearts it was the right thing to do for me. I had limited responsibilities in my life during this time but I also knew deciding to move would impact my family and my dogs. I was being pulled by the Universe to make this move, to trust myself, to trust in the process and the guidance I was receiving, even if it meant my heart was being broken because I knew I had to give guardianship of my two dogs to my ex-husband. It was now his turn and time to care for them during their precious senior years. Not only that, but also knowing I would be saying, ‘See you soon’ to my very beloved family and friends immediately brought tears to my eyes.

Will you have naysayers? Yes, you will. There is no way around it. When you begin to hear the negative chatter surrounding the decision you made, you can rest assured that most people saying things to you have your best interest at heart. Whatever reason it is that they feel compelled to share their opinion, you WILL hear their voices in your head, you WILL question yourself, you WILL doubt. Rest assured, this is where learning to trust yourself and standing in your power of your decision will keep you grounded so you can continue to move forward along your chosen path.

This is your life. No one will ever have the exact same experiences that you have living your life and being your true authentic self. Don’t live your life being in the passenger seat while allowing someone else to drive for you. You’re not going to be on your death bed regretting all the things you did but you will be on your death bed regretting all of those experiences you did not do. Don’t have regret. Don’t live in fear. You only have one lifetime. Learning to trust in yourself is what will make your life such an amazing experience for you. Lay on your death bed with a huge grin on your face knowing you lived your life for you; knowing you enjoyed the ride and experiences; knowing you made a difference; knowing you loved hard; knowing you trusted yourself.

Disappearing Acts in Dating – Ghosting

Let’s talk about it…has it happened to you?  Is it happening to you now with a woman you like? Or worse yet, have you actually done this to a woman? One moment you’re having dinner with someone on a date, hoping this will go somewhere and the next moment you never hear from them again. The term in the dating/relationship world is called ghosting.

What is ghosting exactly?  According to our friends over at Urban Dictionary  , ghosting is the act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone. Let’s say the subject is dating and you no longer wish to date the other person. So then, you ghost them.  You cease all communication in hopes the other person gets the hint and will leave you alone (for good) instead of having an actual adult conversation with them to let them know you’re no longer interested.

Immature? Yes.

Some people feel ghosting someone will hurt their feelings less when in actuality, it can cause major confusion on behalf of the ghostee. This is a serious lack of communication skills from the ghoster and aside from a sense of confusion, the ghostee also never gets closure on the situation and is left in a state of bewilderment. The lack of ‘why’ is frustrating.

The world of dating is not an easy one and in a day and age where we can just ‘shut someone off’ by unfriending them, blocking them or ignoring takes the core element of relating and communicating to a whole sinking low level.

There are other ways to tell someone you’re dating that you are no longer interested in them:

  1. Have an actual face to face conversation (it’s a new thing)
  2. Have an actual phone conversation (remember talking?…on the phone?)
  3. Pass them a note in the hallway between classes

In a time of easy outs, expressing your opinion hiding behind your laptop and ghosting, it’s time to take the high road when it comes to relationships and letting someone ‘down’ easy.  Pull up the big boy/girl panties and be an adult about it.  If you’re adult enough to enter into a relationship, you’re also adult enough to exit one.

If you feel are experiencing relationship issues of any kind, I can help.  You can schedule an appointment with me for a psychic relationship/love reading by visiting HERE.