Being a spiritual advisor, the majority of the questions most people have for me are related to love and relationships. Most want to know if the person they are dating will be their life partner, soulmate or twin flame. A lot of the scenarios and situations that cross my path honestly break my heart. I want to reach out through my laptop to those asking the questions (mostly women) and tell them they are worthy of the most amazing, loving, caring, reciprocated relationship if they simply re-direct their focus onto one thing: Self-Love.
Most of us have not really been taught the art of loving thyself. We are constantly on the quest to find ‘the one’ that we miss the most important one of all…ourselves. In order for you to really get the love you want and deserve, you must start with yourself first. Self love is simply the regard for your own well-being and happiness. No one has control over this but you. One thing we must remember is that it is okay to put yourself first.
Loving yourself first is the greatest gift you can give to yourself. But what does loving yourself look like? It is and should be different for each and every person. Self love comes in many forms ranging from treating yourself to a massage or a spa treatment for complete relaxation and releasing of negative energies and toxins to knowing your worth and not putting up with anyone’s mistreatment of you. By mistreatment I mean any kind of abuse from mental and emotional to spiritual and physical. What is your worth?
Did you know that you actually teach someone in the first 6-months of any kind of relationship how to treat you. If you do not set healthy boundaries within those first 6-months you might be entering into a relationship that is not the healthiest for you and it will be more difficult for you to set your self love boundaries moving forward. Of course do not give up hope but if you find yourself heading down a path in a relationship that may be negative, you may need to sit with yourself, get centered and make a decision that is best for you.
When you love yourself first you are setting a precedence for many positive relationships, situations and opportunities to come into your life. You may not realize it at first but it will happen. Keep your self love practice rolling each and every day. Remember, it can be walking in nature alone to get grounded to giving yourself 15 minutes a day for journaling and meditation. Nothing is more sacred than the love you give yourself.
Stephanie is a Psychic Empath, Energy Healer and Empowerment Coach. If you would like a reading with her or another kind of session, please click here.